First and foremost,
I would like to thanked to everyone for the good wishes and dua'
for the arrival of my little ones #babyYK on last post.
With that, on the 28th August 2017 at 3.36 p.m.
I have safely delivered a beautiful baby girl with a weight of 3.21kg on normal.
And sorry because her pictures and post will only be shared after I fully finish my confinement 😌 🙇
Last 3rd September, I received a message from a stranger. A total stranger. Like really a stranger that I never knew even exist and have her eyes on me. Not literally eyes on me. But, some sort of. With a message of,
'Or do you want to share your husband with others and
that's why you keep on sharing his good deeds and promoting him?'
To start with the story, I posted an appreciation post on the morning of Eid Adha last 1st September, about my husband on my social media account on how thankful I'm to have him by my side during my toughest time on giving birth and up until now (since I'm having my confinement all by myself -like totally all by myself- and not with my mother). It was a no sensitive personal bedroom issues, but it was more on how a people think and take about my post basically. And by all, I only meant it to be as an advice or a sharing experience post for newly wedded couples (like me) with only a positive thought. So, here was the post ;
As you can see, I did mentioned the word 'help me to bath' there. And if you have gone through the process of giving birth and you know how painful and how your life could simply end at that time, then you will understand more about the words that I highlighted there. I do not simply think like others at my age even when I was at my college years and yes, my sentences there was not made for typical shallowly minded girl whom always think the negative way with a very negative mind.
Why I Appreciate My Husband the Most?
On my third trimester, I had Anemia (a condition marked by a deficiency of red blood cells or of hemoglobin in the blood, resulting in pallor and weariness.) From there, my Doctor advised me to eat more than I used to in order to avoid any difficulties during my labor process. Within a week, I managed to neutral my condition back but this time with a lil bit more healthier than before. So, on my 38th week check up, my Doctor scanned my baby and told me that the baby weight is 3.5kg by that time. To avoid any complications during the labor (if I want a normal labor process and not doing the C Sect) I have to give birth as soon as possible before the baby weight reach 4kg. After discussed with my husband, we decided to do the induce. Yes, I did the induce but without taking the Epidural. And for that, I was at the state of fighting my life and saving my baby's for 9 hours in the labor room.
And because of that 9 hours , I posted that on my social media. Why? Because I wanted that moment to last in my memory and our #babyYK. To me, all husbands should simply just be blessed and thankful on having their wife giving birth to their child as they might not know on chances their wife to survive after giving birth (which no one knows). And to wives, they should be blessed on having their husband standing next to you, comforting you, calming you every second you spent on the labor room with you fighting together on the arrival of their little ones. That precious moment is really the matter of your life and death. After going through those moments, we begun to appreciate each others sacrifices more.
He help to bath me because after the labor, I could not even afford to walk to the bathroom. So, how can I even bath by my own? I need a help. I need someone to help me. Not to be sympathise, but more to be there when I'm in need. And by that time and that moment, my husband is the one that always been there. Having his sleepless nights before and after the delivery. Taking care of me endlessly with all his heart and his love. And that's why I made the post about him.
A Note to the Stranger
I know most of you whom read this might have settle down at an early age like me or some might even be a single lady searching and waiting for her prince charming to come to her. But, on whatever status you are. Please do think before you voicing out something. There must be a reason why a person did this and that. From I was a teenager, I always bare this in mind.
'ONLY TAKE THINGS MATTER IF ITS INVOLVE ME'.
So, here's the full messages that the stranger sent to me that shocked me and my husband. Why? Because we never thought to have someone that tentatively watching about me that much and think the way she thinks that much.
1st message of her's to me.
The 2nd and I hope the last.
How about my responds?
Here's what I answered.
In an essay, like what my husband expected me to do.
Okay, so. Yeah. That's basically what I had on my side and point of view. What would you do if you receives a message from a stranger like me? Share your thoughts below and who knows I might able to use it in future hahaha😉
*P/s : Here's a lil snippet of #babyYK with her overly attach father 😌 Let's just pray that my confinement days will end soon (fingercross)